I started this blog in May of 2008. I was 20 years old and highly concerned with living a pure life, which to me includes waiting until marriage until I have sex. It's been five years since I began writing on this subject and my view has not changed. If anything, I can see more now why it is so important and healthy to protect yourself against the damaging affects of premarital sex. I'm 25 years old and anytime someone finds out that I am a virgin then that is suddenly how I am defined. I am no longer Leilani, but I am in their minds some kind of an overly religious slave who is adhering to this so called rule that I must remain a virgin. Sex is not a game, it's not how you discover love, and it cannot satisfy you completely in a casual relationship. Now I understand that I am part of 3% of the population who decides to wait until marriage, so this explains better why 97% of people look at me like I'm a naive fool. It's way past time that we evaluate what our careless over-sexed attitudes are doing to our society as a whole. Women under 25 are more likely to have had a baby than to be married, while 44% of British children are now born out of wedlock. If you're a parent and can look at your daughter and be okay with the idea that she may be living with you after 18 with a child as a single mother then by all means continue to believe what you believe about casual sex. If you are 25 or younger, seriously consider your life...your youth is fleeting! You have a much better shot at living a successful, happy and productive life if you're not a single parent raising a kid on your own or tortured by your past liaisons . Our mentality about sex being a casual thing is faulty, damaging, obviously pleasure driven and creating dysfunctional families. Our choices affect not only our lives but the lives of generations to come. Maybe if we were more concerned about teen sex than we were with gay marriage we'd be helping to raise healthy adults for the future. We don't want to fight for purity, especially in America we'd rather fight to keep and protect our perversion.
Here is a good article series for those who have decided to wait until marriage:
Sexless in the City
